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For years I thought that my primary job was that of a mom and caregiver. My role was to raise my children to know the Lord, become fully functional adults and make a contribution to society.
I believed that when I had children that my dreams no longer mattered but it was their dreams that I now needed to focus on.
When my mom passed away and I took on the additional role of looking after my dad and the entire household.
I felt like I needed to be superwoman, stepping into her shoes and taking on her role in addition to my own responsibilities.
For a long time, those hopes and dreams that I had for my life weren’t even on my radar. The needs of my family, employer and church were far more important than my own.
These beliefs grew stronger as I got older because I also thought that the older I got, the less likely it was that I would be able to pursue and fulfill my dreams.
So I stored them away and didn’t give them much thought.
Then… I turned 40. I took a look back at the life I had lived so far and I was not happy with what I saw.
It wasn’t a bad life but in recent years my life had become very overwhelming, frustrating and out of balance. Somehow I felt like I was meant for much, much more.
Right then and there I determined that my next 40 years would be better, in fact, exceed, my previous forty years.
I didn’t know how I would do it, or even what I needed to do but I knew that there MUST be more to life than I had previously experienced it.
Easier said than done. I had a really hard time letting go of all the busyness in my life so that I could really take the steps I needed to change.
Every time I thought about letting something go, I’d think “No, that’s too important to so and so, I can’t say no to that” or “I can’t disappoint them, they need me.”
My kids needed me, my dad needed me, my employer needed me, my church needed me. How would I find the time to build my dream life when everyone needed me.
All my time was taken up doing stuff for others… Important stuff… I couldn’t disappoint them, that would be selfish… They NEEDED me!
But then I thought about it and realized that it would be a sad sad day if when I got to heaven, all I had to say to the Lord was how busy I was, but I never even attempted to do the very things that He sent me here to do.
If you’re a busy mom like me, you may also be thinking that you just don’t have the time right now to go after your own dreams when you have some many other important things to do (especially for others).
You’re probably thinking you should wait until the kids are a little older or wait until your life is a little less busy.
You may even be thinking that you’re now way too old to accomplish what you’ve always dreamed of and it’s not important anyway.
What if I told you that your dreams ARE important?
Your dreams are important to God, they are important to the people whose lives they are meant to touch and they should be important to YOU because they are part and parcel with who you were sent to this earth to be.
Here are just a few reasons why you SHOULD be actively pursuing your calling.
“Your eyes could see me as an embryo, but in your book, all my days were already written; my days had been shaped before any of them existed.” – Psalm 139:16 (CJB)
I love this verse, it overwhelms me to know that the same God who created the universe took the time to write out my destiny before I had breathed one breath of air on this earth.
It tickles me to imagine Him sitting at a desk with a journal in front of Him (it was probably a scroll lol) and a pen saying “I’m going to create Deborah today, let’s see… who shall she be” … and then writing it all down in His book.
When I think about it, whenever God revealed something really important to his prophets in the Bible, He told them to write it down. In Habakkuk 2:2, He says “Write the vision…”.
God’s vision for you is written in heaven. He’s already written your destiny, the things you were meant to do with the gifts and talents he has given you, the people you were meant to touch.
Your destiny is written in heaven and waiting for you. All you need to do now is manifest it here on earth – on earth as it is in heaven.
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.” – Dr. Seuss
There is only one you, and nobody can do you better than you can. The calling you have on this earth is unique, nobody else can fulfill it.
There may be other people already doing the things that you dream of doing, but they cannot do it in the way that you can.
Your talents and gifts are meant to touch others. There are people waiting specifically for you to start that business or that blog, write that song or that book.
I truly do believe that there are specific people on this earth that each of us is meant to touch in a way that aids them in their journey to a relationship with God and fulfilling THEIR purpose.
Whether that is to lead them to Christ, or plant a seed or encourage them on their journey with Jesus.
The effect that you have on someone based on your experiences may be totally different to the effect that I might have that same person.
The people who respond to my story and experiences may not be the same people who respond to yours.
There are people waiting for you to touch their lives in a way that only you can.
Although we would like him to, the Lord is not going to show us his plans all at once. Psalm 119:105 (CJB) says “Your word is a lamp for my foot and light on my path.”
Deciding to pursue your purpose often means breaking convention and going where you’ve never gone before. You’ll likely be moving into uncharted territory and at times will have to step out in blind (seemingly) faith.
God often gives us just enough instructions to do what we need to do at a particular point in time.
You’ll likely be moving into uncharted territory and at times will have to step out in blind (seemingly) faith. God often gives us just enough instructions to do what we need to do at a particular point in time.
He may ask us to do something that seems silly or something that we don’t fully understand, but we have to trust that He will never ask us to do anything that will do us harm (I don’t know about you but I’m still a work in progress on this one :)).
Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that His plans are GOOD that means He always has our best interests at heart.
Stepping out to chase after your calling will definitely increase your faith.
Life becomes more meaningful when you’ve found a way to use the things you love to do and are passionate about to touch the lives of others.
When all is said and done, I believe we all want to know that we have left this earth having lived a meaningful life, knowing that we’ve done what we were sent to here do and that we didn’t just exist but that our life made a difference in the life of someone else.
I mentioned at the beginning of this post that when I reflected on my life at 40, it was overwhelming, frustrating and out of balance. Since then I’ve done two things, started this blog and started leading a small group.
Even though there are still things I’ve working on, both of these have brought a balance and peace to my life because I finally feel like I’m taking steps towards living the life I was meant to live.
Most people look forward to a time when they can retire and then do what they really love doing. I don’t ever want to retire.
My desire is to spend the rest of my life passionately pursuing and walking in all the things God created me to do until the day I leave this earth.
If you read last week’s post, you may have already written down the things that you believe God has called you to go after.
I challenge you this week to make it a priority to get started on at least one in some way, even if it’s a small step.
Leave a comment and let me know how it goes.